Tough Guise

As I began to reflect on Katz's Tough Guise 2,  I was very interested in the role of women play in the male facade of Masculinity. As a woman I am guilty of  being attracted to a man who fit into this tough guise. I stumbled upon an article on the website titled "the rational male". The article, Vulnerability, by Rollo Tomassi compares a mans emotions to the heel of Achilles. If one of a man's biggest fears is that his emotions will make him vulnerable and exposed, what caused this fear? Katz focused on one male influences and societal influences on young men to become overly masculine and tough, which I can't argue with. But I do not think that he focused enough on the role women play to perpetuate this male stereotype of a strong, powerful and masculine man. The majority of women will claim to want a man who will be emotionally supportive of her needs and wants but who they are usually attracted to is the man who is strong and embodies masculinity. I realize that this is a huge generalization and I am aware that not all women feel this way. But with what I assume to be an outstanding number of women who do, this phenomenon has to be felt by men. This added pressure is something that I'm sure adds to the stereotype of what an Americanized man is today. How do we as women change this?  Collectively the female population must show they value men who reject the tough guise. 

http://therationalmale.com/2014/11/23/vulnerability/